Happiness. Oh that elusive word that means so many things to so many different people.
Some people find happiness in others, some of us find it in ourselves. One thing I have learned is
that no one else gets to control how happy you are. You are in control of your life, your thoughts
and your own body. I found this short story and feel it really illustrates how to apply these
principles to your own life.

“One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the
farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to
be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey. He invited all his neighbors to
come over and help him.

They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what
was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he quieted down. A few shovel
loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw.

With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would
shake it off and take a step up. As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the
animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey
stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!”

The moral of the story is that when you get stuck, there is always a way out, and sometimes we
have to take our blinders off in order to see it. Sometimes, other people around you are going to
throw you a life line, and it is your choice to grab hold of the rope and help hoist yourself back up.
Or you can let life bury you in dirt.

The five rules to be happy:

  1. Free your heart from hate and forgive others. The purpose of hate and energizing that
    emotion is to keep us in a low level vibration. Love is the opposite of hate and if we choose
    love over hate, we will always win.

  2. Don’t worry! We spend so much time worrying about things that may or may not happen
    rather than living in the present moment and just accepting what is. If you take a step back
    from yourself and don’t like the situation you are in, remember you are in control and you
    and only you make the decisions that propel you forward.

  3. Be grateful. You are alive and that is a gift. When people die, it is hardest on those who are
    left behind. By simply applying an attitude of gratitude and being open to what can be you
    will start to clear the negative energy around you.

  4. Give to others. I know I am always saying, give to yourself first and that is true. There are
    times though when you can see another person who doesn’t have the same set of
    circumstances you have, ask yourself how can I make that person’s day better? Maybe
    there is homeless person who sits outside the coffee shop you frequent. Place yourself in
    their shoes for one second. Now go inside and buy them coffee and a piece of food.

  5. Don’t expect anything from anyone else. No one else can fulfill your needs as well as you
    can. When we look outside others for our happiness we will constantly set ourselves up for

Nicole Black
Nicole Black

Nicole Black is an author, advocate and motivational speaker whose journey through fat shaming and food addiction was transformed into a powerful, positive body image. Now, she teaches women to heal from the inside out and reclaim their lives.

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